The position you sleep in with your your partner can determine the strength of your relationship

• Partners who sleep an inch or less apart are happier than those who don't
• Around 42% of couples sleep back to back while just 4% face each other
• Couples who sleep face to face while touching were the happiest

Are you someone who likes to cuddle up against your partner at night? Or do you tend to wake on the other side of the bed, facing the wall?

New research shows that the position in which we sleep is highly revealing about the strength of our relationships.

The key is the distance between couples, according to a study of 1,100 people.

Partners who sleep less than an inch apart are far more likely to be happy together than those maintaining a gap wider than 30 inches, the researchers found.

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1. The happiest couples: Partners who sleep face to face while touching were found to be 100% satisfied in their relationships
2. Couple who sleep while touching were found to be much happier than those who don't make any contact while sleeping

And couples who spend the night making physical contact are happier than those who do not touch.
The research, published today at the Edinburgh International Science Festival, expands on work by psychiatrist Samuel Dunkell.

He found people who lie curled up in the ‘full foetal’ position are likely to be indecisive, anxious and sensitive to criticism.
Those who sleep in a ‘semi-foetal’ position, with their knees drawn up, are conciliatory, amenable to compromise, and unlikely to take extreme stances, he said.

People who sleep in the ‘royal’ position – flat on their back – tend to be confident, open, expansive, and sensation-seeking.
And those who lie ‘prone’ on their face show a tendency for rigidity and perfectionism.

The study found that 42 per cent of couples sleep back to back, 31 per cent face the same direction and just 4 per cent face one another.

Around 34 per cent sleep touching and 12 per cent spend the night less than an inch apart, while 2 per cent are separated by more than 30 inches.
Of those who fall asleep touching, couples tend to be happier if they are face-to-face than if they ‘spoon’ their partners, facing the same direction, or if they face in opposite directions.
Of those who do not touch, the largest number of happy couples face the same direction – above those who sleep back to back or facing each other.

University of Hertfordshire  psychologist Professor Richard Wiseman, who led the study, said: ‘Ninety four per cent of couples who spent the night in contact with one another were happy with their relationship, compared to just 68 per cent of those that didn’t touch.

‘This is the first survey to examine couples’ sleeping positions, and the results allow people to gain an insight into someone’s personality and relationship.’

The study found 86 per cent of couples who slept less than an inch apart felt happy in their relationship, compared with 66 per cent of those who slept more than 30 inches apart.

The latest results are part  of Professor Wiseman’s wider research on sleep and dreaming. He is using Dr Dunkell’s ideas to examine the ways people relate to each other in their sleep.

His initial findings suggest that people who sleep very close to their partners are more likely to be extroverts.

He has written a book, Night School, about his work.
Professor Wiseman said: ‘Thirty four per cent of people said they slept touching, but this rose to 45 per cent among extroverts.’

Secret to happiness is helping others

The secret to happiness is helping others - and setting yourself concrete goals to do so, say researchers.

They claims that achieving goals give us a far greater sense of satisfaction that abstract concepts of helping others.

The team even admit that chasing happiness without clearly defined goals could make us unhappy, resulting in 'helper burnout'.



Givers are likely to experience greater happiness if they frame acts of benevolence in concrete rather than abstract terms, according to the new study.

'Although the desire for personal happiness may be clear, the path to achieving it is indefinite,' said Jennifer Aaker at Stanford University, who led the research.

'One reason for this hazy route to happiness is that although people often think they know what leads to happiness, their predictions about what will make them happy are often inaccurate.'

The team say one path to happiness is through concrete, specific goals of benevolence – like making someone smile or increasing recycling – instead of following similar but more abstract goals – like making someone happy or saving the environment.

The reason is that when you pursue concretely framed goals, your expectations of success are more likely to be met in reality.

On the other hand, broad and abstract goals may bring about happiness' dark side – unrealistic expectations.